Tiffany W.
Photography by Emma Kraus
If you’re reading this, embrace change and the mess that may come with it.
There are two instances in my life that stand out when I think of big changes— becoming a parent and moving countries.
It is a very humbling thing when you feel like you have had most things under control, and when you start to take care of little, tiny humans, or move countries, you realize, you really don’t. While we may have the right intentions to put our best selves forward, I have learned that you also need to make sure you are putting your true self forward. Sometimes that truth is that maybe you are not actually feeling all that great and on top of your game. It may also mean there is no clear, immediate solution, which can feel even more unnerving. Honestly, it’s okay to slow down. I found that it is better to let people know how I am really doing than to put on a brave face and pretend otherwise. Only then can I appreciate what I can and cannot do, have the headspace to learn, and lean on others.
As I started to lean more on others through various life events, it helped me know myself better, deepen my faith, and build some really good friendships. I think we are sometimes surprised how much our friends and family are willing to help and that can really transform how you might face a hard time in your life. It reminds me of a favorite book in our household, “The Giving Tree,” by Shel Silverstein. It’s about a tree who loves a boy and remains by his side as he grows up. At the very end of the book, the boy (who is now much older) returns to the tree, and says this:
"'I don't need very much now,' said the boy, 'just a quiet place to sit and rest. I am very tired.'
'Well,' said the tree, straightening herself up as much as she could, "well, an old stump is good for sitting and resting. Come, Boy, sit down. Sit down and rest.'
And the boy did. And the tree was happy."
I hope you all find contentment, a good support network of loved ones, and joy as you embark on your journey and embrace the mess!
Tiffany W., Boston University
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