Amy Z.

If you’re reading this, you are not alone.

In this world, it’s easy to feel like we need to be perfect or always have it together, but the truth is, it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. It’s okay to struggle, and it’s more than okay to let others see that you’re having a tough time. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness—on the contrary, it takes strength to reach out when you need it.

I spent the night I was supposed to move back onto campus for my sophomore year, panic texting my therapist from my car. I spent hours sitting alone in the parking lot, trying to calm myself down enough for the blotchy redness of my tear-stained face to fade. I was terrified to go inside and even more terrified that someone would be able to tell I was crying and know I was struggling. I was terrified to move into the sorority I was president of, filled with people who were kind and welcoming. It didn’t make sense—rationally, I knew that. I couldn’t explain why I was terrified — but the fear and panic felt real, and at the time, they were overwhelming.

And yet, that year ended up being the best year of my college experience. The relationships I built in that house and the growth I experienced were invaluable. But none of that felt possible from my car on that September night. In this world, it’s easy to feel like we need to be perfect or always have it together, but the truth is, it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. It’s okay to struggle, and it’s more than okay to let others see that you’re having a tough time. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness—on the contrary, it takes strength to reach out when you need it.

I just wanted to take a moment to remind you of something incredibly important: you are not alone. You don't have to face anything on your own. There is always help available, whether it’s from a friend, a loved one, or a professional. Be kind to yourself, take things one step at a time, and know that your worth is not determined by the challenges you face but by the strength you show as you keep fighting through them.

You are not defined by your struggles. You are worthy, you are capable, and you are loved.

Take it one step at a time. You've already made it this far, and you are stronger than you realize.

Amy Z., Northwestern University

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