Addy W.
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If you're reading this, it is okay to depend on others.
If you’re reading this, remind yourself - you don't always have to be the person others depend on. It’s okay to depend on others too. Becoming a leader doesn’t make you invincible, and it doesn’t mean you’re selfish for needing support or time to rest. You don't have to be the one that is always “fine.”
Know that the best leaders aren’t the ones that never need help or take a break. Pouring everything you have into others, into your team, your organization, your community, eventually empties you, and you can’t lead from empty. Not taking care of yourself doesn't make you strong; knowing when you need help is a true sign of strength and maturity. Being brave enough to ask for help is something you owe to yourself.
Leadership can be lonely, but remember the people who helped you get there. The friends, family, and supporters who helped you through the challenges along your journey still care. They are still there for you - and their willingness to support you is not determined by a position. Leadership positions are temporary, the relationships you nurture last long after that title fades away.
Anyone who’s ever been on a plane knows the rule: put your mask on first before helping others. Leadership is no different. You can’t support the wellbeing of your team or your community if you ignore your own. Leading is about sustainability - it’s a marathon not a sprint. Ensure that you’re fueling yourself along your entire journey, so you can bring others along with you.
Humanity is your greatest strength as a leader. When people see you ask for help, it empowers others to do the same. You are strong. You are impactful. You are allowed to rest. Taking care of yourself doesn’t make you weaker, it makes you a better leader. It means you are strong enough to know what you need. It means you are powerful. It means you are healthy.
So, if you’re reading this, I challenge you to give others the opportunity to help you, just as you would do for them.
Addy W., Virginia Tech
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